January 10, 2006
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Questions
How do u maintain a friendship with someone that has been lying to you and all of your friends since the day u met him?
I suspected lies here and there and there have been rumours floating about what was fact and what was fiction.
But now it has been confirmed.
You really don't know what was true and what was false.
Is he just a compulsive liar?
I confronted him about a few of the lies and he always comes up with an answer that explains why it sounds fishy. Another lie to cover up the first lie.
The question i really would like to know is if his GF knows the truth or is he lying to her as well?
How deep does the lie go? Does his parents know about the lie?
Why would he lie? He didn't need to lie to be accepted. Everyone had different pasts and different experiences.
I want to remain friends but i don't think i can believe anything that comes out of his mouth anymore.
Should I confront him about this lie?
I worry that it will embarass himself to the point that there is no repair. I think he knows that we all can see through his lies sometimes and becomes less vocal about his lies and life.
Just be yourself. Why live the lie? and if your going to live the lie...make sure that the lie can't be proven at least.
friend:"yo i did this and this and that yesterday."
me: *how is that possible...i was with u yesterday?
what to do what to do...
Comments (7)
if you are good friends you must confront the lies with the goal of helping him to stop lying altogether, can't live a healthy life that way... if you are not good friends or could care less about the guy just cut dude off. o_O"
I agree w/ Chris ..
i think that lies eventually will get exposed without you having to do anything about them. your decision to confront should depend on the constructiveness you intend to yield from the confrontation. if you feel it may be counterproductive then i'd just wait. if people are getting hurt by the lies though, it may be time to expose the truth.
i am james bond.
o_O" in true chris fashion.
I think you've been pretty understanding to this point. Maybe you need to confront him even if he'll be humiliated...don't think he'll understand the consequences of what he says until you do.
But what if you confront him and he denies everything? Some people can't be saved but you can die trying. I just don't think it's worth it if it ain't gonna work.
lol
well i think u should hint that you know the truth..or what you think is the truth and at the same time as a friend you should subtly indicate you would be understanding...see if he can own up on his own.....there might be actually a good reason to lie?
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